For many people, divorce is on a rocky shoal in uncharted waters. The stakes can be high and one small mistake can cost you in the long run. To help keep you on track, we’ve compiled a list of the Top 10 Divorce Don’ts:
Don’t Read Your Spouse’s Email or Texts. If you think that there’s something on your spouse’s email or phone that you need, do not go searching through his or her email or text messages. While this action in and of itself may not be illegal, adding interception software or keyloggers to access your spouse’s private communications is. Not only will a court not accept any communications obtained illegally, you could land yourself in some hot water.
Do Not Talk About Your Divorce Proceedings on Social Media. When it comes to divorce, Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, etc., are not your friends. Anything that you post online can be fair game for your spouse’s attorney. This is especially critical if you are involved in mediation for your divorce. Mediation proceedings are confidential, so sharing what you or your spouse said during mediation can unravel any progress you’ve made.
Don’t Blog About the Divorce. While everyone wants to be able to communicate and connect with people who are going through similar experiences, your divorce is not the time to start sharing your deepest, darkest secrets on your blog. The same rules hold true for your blog as it does about social media. Use discretion.
Don’t Post Pictures of Yourself or Your Life. This may sound extreme, but anything you put online can be used against you in your divorce proceedings. Posting a picture of yourself with a drink in your hand could potentially be used against you in custody proceedings. Pictures of the new expensive purchase can be used to determine spousal support. Just don’t post pictures of yourself during this time.
Don’t Record Calls. Your spouse may be screaming at you, but this is not the time to press record. Recording someone without their express permission is illegal and cannot be used against that person in court.
Don’t Leave Angry Voicemail Messages. If you’re upset with something your spouse did or didn’t do, don’t use voicemail to vent. Before you go off after the beep, imagine everything you are about to say being played in open court. Then hang up and tell those things to the wall.
Don’t Leave Angry Email or Other Electronic Communications. Just like #6 above, don’t send Tolstoy-worthy rants to your spouse’s email or text. Imagine having that read in court. Tell it to your pet instead.
Don’t Put Your Kids in the Middle. No matter how much you don’t want to talk to your spouse, don’t use your children as messengers. Make sure all decisions you make are in the best interests of your kids.
Don’t Increase Your Debt. Many divorces are accompanied by bankruptcy for various reasons. It may be time to get used to doing more with less.
Don’t Fail to Consult an Attorney. If you are facing divorce, do yourself a favor and spend some time talking with an experienced Orlando divorce attorney. Understanding your rights and obligations during this time can take a lot of stress off and protect you in the long run. Contact the experienced attorneys at McMichen, Cinami & Demps at (407) 898-2161 or complete our online form today.